One of the more subtle conflicts affecting couples who have known the thrill of conscious conception and ecstatic childbirth is the desire for the no-barriers sexual intensity that accompanies these events, versus the desire to delay or forgo having more children. This conflict is usually unspoken, but after some time has passed and the family has stabilized, this psycho-erotic desire for conception can rise up and wreak havoc with future plans, as well as compliance with birth control.

~elizabeth davis, midwife

Yep. That about sums it up for Fuser and I. A friend recently asked what our method of birth control was, I replied, "stocking up on 99 cent pregnancy tests and breathing a sigh of relief each month when I'm not pregnant." She looked at me as if I must be joking, then she realized who she was talking to and burst out laughing. She said, "are you guys trying???" and I replied, "no, but it would sure make everything easier if I was pregnant so I wouldn't neurotically wonder if I was every month.

Ahh, the twisted mind of the spontaneous non-planners.

When my dear friend Cupcake was in town a month ago I frantically sent her to Rite Aid to buy a pregnancy test for me early Saturday morning. When she returned she said, "you know, the condoms were right next to this pregnancy test for the same price, I thought about getting you a box.."

And yet, Fuser and I still can't seem to do anything responsible about this.

"The psycho erotic desire." I couldn't have described it more poetically if I tried.